A Man's Guide to Buying Erotic Lingerie

What woman doesn't love receiving the gift of sensual lingerie from her partner? Well, actually, although lingerie is a timeless and thoughtful gift, it's very possible to get it wrong, which can not only defeat the purpose behind the gift but can even land you in some hot water if you're not careful.

Fortunately, this article will set you on the right path and provide you with all the useful information you need to ensure that when she opens your gift, she'll be thrilled and not chilled.

We will go over the six most important things to consider when buying erotic lingerie for your partner and offer some insight into the pitfalls that you should avoid at all costs. So, without further ado, let’s get right into it.  

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Start with the Size

First, and most importantly, you need to make sure that if you're going to buy her some sexy lingerie, it will actually fit her. There's nothing worse than taking your time, shopping around, and picking out the perfect sexy lingerie only to discover when she goes to try it on that it doesn’t fit her properly.

If the lingerie is too tight, then she might feel overweight, which is one of the very best ways to turn her off, possibly for weeks or longer; because of this, she might even feel bad about herself, which is, of course, the opposite of what you were intending, but nevertheless, that's the impact that your gift will have, so tread carefully.

Even worse would be buying her lingerie that's too large for her; this will make her believe that YOU THINK she is larger than she actually is, which is a sure-fire way to end up in the doghouse. That's not to say that being plus-sized is in any way a bad thing...there's no winning on this one!  Here at Wild Crush our lingerie collections are for everyone of all sizes, shapes and kinks, we have plenty of erotic plus size sexy lingerie available, even the curviest of women will feel sexy and sensual in. We've picked out some of our sexiest plus size lingerie buys for 2021 to make it easy for you!

There are a few ways to guarantee that you get the sizing just right. The easiest way is just to look at the sizes of her other lingerie sets. Now, it's possible that she may have gained or lost a few pounds since the last time she purchased lingerie; if so, be sure to take that into consideration. However, for the most part, by looking at her other erotic lingerie, you should be able to get a good idea of what size to buy.

Alternatively, if you really want to be 100% sure that you get the size right, you can always tell her what you're planning to buy and ask her what size she needs and then surprise her with your fabulous choice in gloriously sexy lingerie. Telling her ahead of time will ruin the surprise of the gift, and she might even be upset that you don't know what size she is, but at the end of the day, it's better to ask than buy something that will make her feel bad. 

Will She Really Wear It?

The biggest and most common mistake that men make when buying lingerie for their partner is picking out lingerie that they themselves wouldn’t choose. Men and women often have very different ideas about what’s sexy. Your girlfriend might very well love crotchless lingerie, but she also might not like that sort of thing at all. Again, look in her wardrobe. What types of lingerie has she purchased previously?

Does she have a bunch of sheer lingerie? Lace lingerie? Black lingerie? Red lingerie? Maybe she is a women who loves see through lingerie or prefers to wear a lingerie bodysuit. Whatever the case may be, by double-checking to see what types of lingerie she has purchased for herself, you can avoid making this classic mistake.

Try to Buy a Matching Lingerie Set

Most lingerie is sold as a matching set, but it’s also possible to make your own lingerie sets with panties and a matching top. Either way, whenever you set out to buy lingerie for her, whether it's sexy Christmas lingerie, Valentine’s lingerie, or ‘just because I love you’ lingerie, try to make sure that the top and bottoms match.

That means the colours should match, but the type of lingerie should also match. If the panties are see through, then go with a see-through top. If the top has lace, the bottoms should as well. Remember, even if you buy her the best luxury lingerie from Wild Crush, it will come across as being cheap lingerie if it doesn’t match.   

Make Sure that it’s Classy

Keep it classy, guys. Again, this comes back to picking out an erotic lingerie set that she will love, which is not necessarily the slutty lingerie set that you would love to see her in. If she doesn't like see through lingerie, then don't buy it for her; if you do, she could end up feeling self-conscious and turned off. She might feel compelled to say thank you for it in the moment; chances are, she will feel compelled to say something else.

That said, there are plenty of women who do love see through lingerie and all sorts of kinky, wild, sexy lingerie sets. The lingerie itself doesn't determine whether or not your gift is classy; it's about knowing your woman and what she likes. Always keep her in mind when shopping for lingerie and try to take yourself out of the picture entirely. If she wants to buy some Christmas lingerie for you to enjoy, then she will; otherwise, ask yourself, "will she actually like this? or is this something I’m buying more for me?” If it's more for you, then make sure it fits you, because you'll be the only one wearing it.

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Pay Attention to the Colours

Again, the colours are important. What colour clothing does she normally buy for herself? If she doesn’t own a single piece of blue clothing, then you probably don’t want to buy her a blue lingerie set? She might love it, but probably not! Women's lingerie is intended to be a reflection of the woman, or more specifically, a reflection of her sexy, sensual side; so, try to make sure that if you’re going to buy her some lingerie that you choose a colour you already know she loves.

Now, there is an exception to this rule, when you look in her wardrobe to check the size and type of lingerie she likes (which you WILL do, right?!), then if you notice that she has a bunch of different lingerie in every colour except for one or two, then chances are that she wants to build a collection with every different colour. Should this be the case, then feel free to purchase a colour that's presently missing from her collection; this will show thoughtfulness, and she'll appreciate the gift even more.

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When In Doubt… Get Her a Gift Card

Bodystockings, teddies, babydolls, if these terms sound like another language to you, and you have no idea what we're talking about, then don't fret. You can't go wrong by giving her a lingerie gift card. With a gift card, she'll be able to pick out some lingerie that SHE loves, so you'll be giving her the perfect lingerie set. Plus, you'll get credit for buying her the very best lingerie, the set that she would have actually chosen for herself because she did.

By giving her a gift card, you'll be doing something for yourself as well. She will be surprised when she opens the gift card, and you'll be surprised when she comes home and shows you the lingerie that she chose. Remember this, regardless of whether it's a lingerie set that you find sexy or not, make sure that you act excited and turned on; otherwise, chances are that's the last time you'll see her in it.


Buying erotic lingerie for your partner is a very thoughtful, intimate gift that she will surely appreciate, but only if you get it just right. By doing your homeworking, making sure to get the right size, picking out something she'll actually wear, getting a matching set, keeping it classy, and paying careful attention to the colour scheme, you'll be able to score a goal rather than receiving a penalty.

When in doubt, you can always buy her a lingerie gift card. There are plenty of occasions when gifting her with lingerie will be appropriate. Christmas, Valentines Day, her birthday, to celebrate a promotion or other achievement, these are all great times to buy her some sexy, erotic lingerie. However, there doesn’t need to be any special occasion at all. If you notice that there is a lingerie sale at her favourite retailer, then feel free to surprise her.

Just make sure that you follow the tips, tricks, and rules that you learned here in this lingerie buying guide, and you won’t go wrong.

Photo's by Ruhan van Vuuren