5 of the Most Common
Most of us will have one, and while the word ‘fetish’ often evokes images of black bodysuits and complicated sexual contraptions, they’re not all dark and kinky. Spanking, for example, is termed as a fetish.
What defines a fetish isn't what the activity or object of desire is so much as the role it plays in someone's life. A fetish is typically thought of as behaviour that someone cannot get sexually aroused without. Fetishes can also be a term people use to describe a sexual arousal that is coupled with a typically non-sexual object.
When we think of kink, we often think of BDSM, which involves an erotic power exchange through dominance and submission. BDSM is kinky, but not all kinks fall under the BDSM umbrella. It’s not unusual for people to have more than one kink or one fetish, and there is often overlap. For instance, someone may engage in spanking as part of a role-playing scenario in which one partner is dressed up as a schoolgirl and the other like a professor. In such an instance, the scenario would involve role play, impact play, and even age play – a big combination of fetishes.
So, let’s discover what the top 5 most common fetishes are…
1. Impact Play
Impact play means spanking, flogging, paddling, and other forms of consensual striking and is often an easy and safe BDSM entry point that leads to exploring more. Impact play can range from a light slap on the bum to a kinky crack of a whip.
As with any kink or fetish, it’s important to negotiate boundaries beforehand as safety and comfort are the most important aspects of kink. Like any sexual exploration, it’s important to do your homework before practicing impact play. Discuss the level of intensity you enjoy - or your partner enjoys - choose a safe word to shut down the action need be and learn what parts of the body are safe to impact. Stick with the meaty areas, like ass and thighs.
You don’t have to stop playing make-believe when you grow up. Role-playing means acting out a sexual fantasy with your partner, either as a one off or as part of an ongoing fantasy. While it can be a fetish or kink within itself, it’s also a healthy way to act out other fantasies. For example, if you have a medical fantasy, and are aroused by doctors, you probably don’t actually want your doctor to get sexy with you because that would be weird. The beauty of role-playing is that you can have your partner dress up as a doctor and indulge your fantasy consensually in your own home.
Role-playing scenarios range from classic schoolgirl-and-professor scenes to the more taboo, such as daddy and little girl. Such role-playing can involve both age play, in which one partner pretends or both partners pretend to be an age other than their own, and incest fantasies.
3. Foot Fetish
A foot fetish involves a desire to worship feet through acts such as massage, kissing, and smelling and is an extremely common fetish. If your partner shares that they have a foot fetish, it may be initially jarring, but it's an opportunity for you to discuss a potentially exciting new part of your sex life together.
4. Anal Sex
You don’t need to have an anal fetish to engage in anal sex, but plenty of people of people do specifically get off on ass stuff. Anal play can range from adding a finger in the bum during penetrative vaginal sex to using sex toys in the butt. But, since the ass is not self-lubricating and harbours bacteria that can lead to infection when transferred to the vagina, it’s important to stock up on lube and read up on ass etiquette before engaging in anal play.
5. Erotic Lingerie
Erotic lingerie is another common fetish and may show up in sexual with those who wouldn’t necessarily consider themselves kinky or to have a fetish. Again, while many people get aroused by sexy underwear, lingerie becomes a fetish when someone needs it to be present in a sexual scenario in order to fully engage or get off on it. A common lingerie fetish involves sexy stockings, which is also a fetish that can overlap with a love of feet.
Once you obtain consent, expressing your sexual desires is one of the healthiest things you can do for your sex life. As long as the desire is safe and based on consent from everyone involved, everyone deserves to pursue their fetish. Do you have a fetish? If so, shop Wild Crush and stock up on all your sexy fetish essentials!